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Then tears slipped down my face as my best friend and a nurse held my legs apart, while another nurse inserted gauze into my vagina to try and stop the bleeding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Everyone always says you\u2019ll remember the first time you have sex, but I\u2019d thought it would be because of how awkward it would be. My first time featured a blood-stained bed, carpet, bathtub and three different hospital rooms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So after my disastrous first time, I want to make sure others don\u2019t have to go through the same thing \u2013 and that starts with this cautionary tale and a call for better sex education for all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I was in my late teens when I first had sex with a boy I was dating at the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On that fateful day, he\u2019d booked a hotel room but it never even crossed my mind that I\u2019d lose my virginity. Needless to say, I was completely unprepared for it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even before we got to the room, I was nervous to the point of feeling nauseous. He made me feel too anxious and jittery. I didn\u2019t know how to behave or what to even say around him \u2013 I felt awkward.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As we got down to it, there was no foreplay for me and he didn\u2019t touch me anywhere other than my chest. Looking back, I should\u2019ve seen this could cause issues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It felt like a piercing pain when he put it in and I remember thinking that something was wrong, but I didn\u2019t know what. He asked if I was on my period and I said no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the sight of the blood, panic flooded my system \u2013 I felt scared and anxious. It looked completely different to period blood, in the sense that it was more fresh and looked like it was never-ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He asked: \u2018Why are you bleeding so much?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t know the answer. I felt shaken.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There was pain and there was blood, but the blood made the room look like a crime scene. It spilled everywhere in a gushing waterfall, staining through the bedspread and into the mattress, down the sides of the bed frame and onto the carpet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After the bleeding started and we stopped having sex, I started using sanitary pads to try to stop the bleeding. When I got through six of them, I decided to call 111 and they asked if the sex was consensual and to describe the events that led up to it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They told me to go to the nearest walk-in centre. At this point, I\u2019d nearly fainted once and felt dizzy, like my entire body was experiencing pins and needles. My mouth was so dry. All I could think was that my family would kill me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

We went to the local walk-in centre \u2013 where they told me I had to go to A&E, I almost passed out, breaking my phone screen when it slipped out of my hand, as they didn\u2019t have the equipment to find out what was wrong.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I ended up telling a nurse, in a quiet and slightly embarrassed voice, that I didn\u2019t want my parents to find out I\u2019d had sex because I wasn\u2019t supposed to be having it. Even in that moment\u2014when I was in pain, scared, and unsure of what was happening to my body\u2014there was still this overwhelming fear of judgment, of disappointing them, of confirming everything they had warned me about growing up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the way to the hospital, I was completely alone. The bleeding hadn\u2019t stopped, and I could feel my body growing weaker by the minute. At one point in the Uber, I nearly fainted again. The driver noticed something was wrong and had to pull over. I remember him looking concerned, asking if I was okay, and then stepping out to get me a packet of cereal bars and a bottle of water from a nearby shop. That small act of kindness helped stabilize me just enough to continue the journey. It\u2019s strange how moments like that stay with you\u2014how a stranger can show more immediate care in a crisis than you feel you can ask from your own family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

While sitting in the waiting room, trying to hold myself together, I managed to message my best friend. I didn\u2019t even fully explain what had happened\u2014I just told her I needed her. By the time I was taken into a ward for more serious assessment, she had already arrived. Seeing her there brought a small sense of relief in an otherwise overwhelming situation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I arrived at A&E, about an hour and a half after the bleeding had first started, everything felt surreal. I was seen by two gynaecologists and several nurses\u2014every one of them women, which made me feel slightly more at ease. Still, the constant movement of staff, the clinical environment, and the seriousness in their voices made it clear that this wasn\u2019t something minor. One of the doctors told me that if the bleeding didn\u2019t stop by the next day, I might need surgery. Hearing that word\u2014surgery\u2014made everything feel even more real and frightening.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

After examining me using a cystoscope, one of them explained what had happened. \u201cYou have a tear on both your vaginal walls,\u201d she said calmly. She explained that it could have been caused by penetration that was too rough, or because I wasn\u2019t physically ready\u2014meaning I wasn\u2019t properly aroused or relaxed. That explanation stayed with me. It made me realize how little I had understood about my own body and what it actually needs to feel safe and comfortable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To control the bleeding, they decided to use gauze packing. By that point, I had been bleeding for over three hours and had soaked through more than ten sanitary pads\u2014even doubling them up didn\u2019t help. Oddly enough, despite all of that, not a single drop had stained my jeans. It felt almost absurd, like my body was going through chaos while the outside still looked normal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the nurses helped me change into disposable, maternity-style briefs. As I sat there on the hospital bed, I noticed the red and black silk lace thong I had bought especially for that night. It felt almost ironic\u2014something I had associated with confidence and excitement now just looked meaningless, even ridiculous. I remember thinking how useless it had all been in the end.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emotionally, I was all over the place. I felt panic, shock, embarrassment, frustration\u2014and at moments, even a strange sense of dark humor about the situation. It didn\u2019t feel real. It didn\u2019t feel like something that should have happened to me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At one point, I told a nurse again that I didn\u2019t want my parents to know. That fear came from years of hearing my mother\u2019s warnings echo in my head. Growing up in a South Asian household, sex had always been treated as something forbidden, something shameful. My mother would tell me, in Bangla, that men only say what they need to say to get what they want. That they make promises they don\u2019t intend to keep. That once they get sex, they leave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lying there in that hospital bed, I couldn\u2019t help but think about those words. Not necessarily because they were entirely true, but because of how deeply they had shaped my fears and my understanding of relationships.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That night in the hospital was incredibly difficult. I felt physically sick and emotionally drained. I couldn\u2019t keep any food down, and sleep felt impossible. Every few hours, nurses would wake me to check my blood pressure, take blood samples, and monitor my temperature. I also had a catheter, which was extremely uncomfortable and made me feel even more disconnected from my body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The next day, I spoke to a gynaecologist and told her, very seriously, that I never wanted to have sex again. She laughed\u2014not in a dismissive way, but gently\u2014and reassured me that what I experienced was not how sex is supposed to feel. She explained that when it\u2019s right\u2014when you\u2019re ready, relaxed, and fully comfortable\u2014it should not be painful like that. I nodded, but I still felt unsure.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I ended up staying in the hospital for two nights. Thankfully, the bleeding stopped the following day. When they removed the gauze, it was almost as painful as when it had been inserted. Eventually, I was discharged. But because I had told my parents I was staying at a friend\u2019s house, I went home and kept everything to myself. I didn\u2019t talk about it with them\u2014or anyone in my family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Later, when I spoke to friends, I realized how varied first experiences can be. Some said it hurt. Some said they felt uncomfortable. Some cried. It made me realize how little open, honest conversation there is about this topic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I learned from that experience was incredibly important. I learned about the necessity of foreplay, of being mentally and physically ready, of feeling safe and comfortable. Without those things, sex can become not just unpleasant\u2014but harmful.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I also began to understand how much pressure young women face\u2014pressure to do it, pressure to be ready, pressure to prioritize someone else\u2019s experience over their own comfort.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Looking back, I know I wasn\u2019t ready. I was anxious, nervous, and too much in my own head. My body reflected that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I didn\u2019t have sex again for an entire year. I needed time to heal\u2014physically and emotionally. When I eventually did, it felt completely different. It was slower, more comfortable, and although there was some initial discomfort, it wasn\u2019t painful in the same way. It felt more natural\u2014like my body was finally cooperating instead of resisting.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, sex is something I associate with positivity, not fear. It feels safe, enjoyable, and mutual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I could go back, I would tell my younger self to wait. To listen to her body. To not rush into something just because it feels expected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Too often, girls are taught to go along with things, to prioritize others, to ignore their own needs. But the truth is, we deserve to feel comfortable, to feel pleasure, and to set boundaries.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And most importantly, we deserve to be ready\u2014on our own terms.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Then tears slipped down my face as my best friend and a nurse held my legs apart, while another nurse inserted gauze into my vagina to try and stop the bleeding. Everyone always says you\u2019ll remember the first time you have sex, but I\u2019d thought it would be because of how awkward it would be. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2346","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized"],"brizy_media":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2346","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2346"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2346\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2347,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2346\/revisions\/2347"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2346"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2346"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/smartorangemedia.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2346"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}